Questions to Ask Adoptive Parents

You undoubtedly thought of 101 questions while looking through adoptive parent profiles. Now is your chance to verbalize these questions, hear the answers and get a sense for how the family feels about their decision to adopt. While you may know a lot about them from their adoptive parent profile, you can learn a lot more from a one-on-one discussion. Other questions will come to you as the conversation progresses, but here are a few to get you started.

  • How long have you been together/married?
  • How did you meet?
  • Do you have any other children? How old? Are they adopted?
  • Do you plan to have/adopt more children?
  • What are your reasons for choosing adoption?
  • What are your hobbies or interests?
  • What does a normal day look like for you?
  • What do you do for a living?
  • On average, how many hours do you work per week?
  • Do you plan to be at home with the baby or use daycare, help from friends/relatives or a nanny?
  • What type of relationship are you hoping to have with me?
  • What degree of openness are you looking for? Are visits possible?
  • Tell me about your extended family. Do you have any photographs of holidays, events or relatives I can see?

Take a deep breath. It's ok to be nervous. But remember - the adoptive parents are likely just as nervous as you are. Giving a baby up for adoption is not an easy decision and adoptive parents try their best to be understanding of that. As long as you remain true to yourself and ask all of your questions, meeting with adoptive families can be a smooth experience (and it may even be fun). Make the most of this time. And remember, just because you met with an adoptive family does not mean you have to place with them.

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