Kyle & Justin
Race of child interested in adopting:
Caucasian, Caucasian/Hispanic, Caucasian/Asian, Caucasian/African American
Dear Birthmother
As we write this letter, our hearts are filled with a profound respect and gratitude for the decision you are facing. As medical professionals, we understand the incredible impact of a nurturing environment on a child’s life. This experience fuels our desire to provide a loving and supportive home for a child through adoption.
You are not choosing this path out of necessity or desire but out of love for your child. We recognize your immense strength as you make the decision to place your child into the arms of another family, entrusting them to care for him or her as their own. Conversely, we make a promise to you: to love, care for, provide, and protect your child as our own. This is a pact unlike any other, and it will bind us together. Your depth of love, caring, and strength will always be an integral part of our family story, just as we would be a part of yours.
Every milestone and every joyous occasion our family will experience will be a tribute to your courageous choice. We understand the responsibility that comes with this gift—a responsibility not just to our child but to you for entrusting us with this precious life.
Your bravery and love are at the heart of our family’s journey. We would be forever grateful to you for helping us welcome a child into our hearts and for the indelible mark you would leave on us.
With the deepest respect and gratitude,
Justin and Ryan
About Us
We met in 2016 and quickly became each other’s best friend. We began officially dating in 2019 and decided to move from a large city to a more rural area in 2021 for a slower pace and to be close to family. We got married in 2023 at a small, outdoor venue. Justin is a pediatric ICU physician, and Kyle is a nurse practitioner in addiction medicine. Both of us are passionate about providing care to our local community. We are an active couple who enjoy biking, skiing, kayaking, cooking, gardening, traveling (most recently to Iceland), and time with family and friends. Many of our extraordinary memories have come from otherwise ordinary moments—walking the dog, cooking dinner, painting a room—so we always try to appreciate the present together.
What Led Us To Adoption
Even before we met, both of us envisioned a future with children. As our relationship grew, our thoughts of what our family could be evolved into what we wanted our family to be. Surrogacy and adoption were the two options available to us as a gay couple, and the choice was simple: adoption. How could we ignore the possibility that an expectant mother might ask us to care for her child as our own? Adoption is a unique, intimate experience that centers itself on the care of a new life. As adoptive parents, we are excited for the opportunity to expand our family by making an enduring, life-long promise to an expectant mother to care and provide for her child.
Our Home
We live in a small town in Pennsylvania, home to a moderate-sized, private liberal arts university. Our community is a unique mix of the idyllic hometown feeling with an exciting, youthful atmosphere and provides a variety of outdoor activities, sports, and a vibrant cultural scene. We live two blocks from local shops and restaurants in an area that routinely hosts annual arts, crafts, and seasonal festivals. We live in a restored late-1800s home, and our neighborhood is full of families with children of all ages. Our school district is consistently in the top 15% in Pennsylvania across multiple categories. We have three pets: our dog, Penny, a well-behaved, calm, sweet Lab/shepherd mix who is exceptional with children; and our two cats, Crooks and Emmie.
Our Family
We are both fortunate to have supportive and loving families. One of the reasons we moved to where we currently live was to be closer to Kyle’s family and to be in a convenient location for Justin’s parents to visit. Both of our immediate families are small, and we have large extended families. Justin’s parents live in Virginia but visit often to help with home projects and outdoor work, go antique shopping, and spend time with their “granddog,” Penny. Kyle’s parents and their respective partners live within fifteen minutes. We enjoy dinners with them and watching Kyle’s nephews’ sports events. Kyle has lots of aunts, uncles, and cousins who live very close to us.
We are blessed with families who have built a community around us to support our adoption. We hold onto the traditions we grew up with: summer and fall beach trips, picking out the Christmas “porch tree,” and celebrating birthday weeks instead of days.
As a new family, we are creating our own: making soups in the winter, canning home-grown tomatoes, and buying an annual family Christmas ornament. As hopeful fathers, we want to share the love and happiness of these memories, new and old, with a child.
